Producer Chana Joffe-Walt fills in for Ira Glass this week. We hear from a person you don’t normally hear from in these kinds of stories — the partner of a man who has been accused of sexual harassment. She finds herself thinking about an old memory, and reconsidering things she’d come to think of as normal. (7 1/2 minutes.)

Growing up, Deanna is told that relationships with men won’t be easy: that men are dumb and she’ll have to make sense of things for them. Throughout her twenties, this proves true. So she’s surprised when she meets a man who’s different — Don. (12 minutes)

Alternet editors try to figure out what to make of Deanna’s odd behavior at an all-staff dinner. (3 minutes)

When Onnesha asks Don for a raise, he asks her a weird question. One that brings to mind a realization Onnesha had as a thirteen-year-old at the swimming pool. (6 minutes)

Don’s behavior grows increasingly troubling to Deanna. (8 minutes)

Tana is clear on how to deal with Don. She’s the cool girl, he’s the flirty boss.  And then Don does something that seems out of bounds. (14 1/2 minutes)

Kristen has no trouble naming what’s going on with Don: sexual harassment. She’s the first Alternet employee angry enough to try to do something about it. (16 1/2 minutes)

We return to Vivian, Don’s partner, who reflects on how to incorporate some new information into the story of her own relationship with him. (9 minutes)