Mary Elizabeth Townsend (23 July 1841 – 14 June 1918) was a British philanthropist and co-founder of theGirls' Friendly Society.

Mary Elizabeth Butler was born inKilkenny, then part of theUnited Kingdom of Great Britain and Ireland, into a family embedded in theChurch of Ireland (i.e.not the Catholic Church). Her father Robert Butler was vicar of St John's Church in that city and chaplain to theEarl of Ormond. Her mother was Grace Hamilton, daughter of another minister, James Hamilton ofTrim, County Meath. James ran a school, and took in and educated his nephew, Grace's cousin, and Mary's first cousin once removed,William Rowan Hamilton. William was a mathematical prodigy, who eventually becameRoyal Astronomer of Ireland.^[1]

Mary's parents died when she was a young child and she was raised in England by her father's sisters.

Aged 21, she married an artist and botanist almost twice her age,Frederick Townsend (1823–1905), also of a clergy family. It was a happy and productive partnership; she put herself in his hands and was glad, as she put it, "to grow and develop under his care".^[2] They lived at first at Shedfield Lodge nearWickham, Hampshire. (The building is now a care home.^[3]) Both husband and wife worked at improving life for the people of the estate. Mary Townsend concentrated her efforts on the education of girls, the orphanage for girls, and the care of the ill and the old.

One of their visitors was Rev. Thomas Vincent Fosbery, chaplain toSamuel Wilberforce.Bishop of Winchester. The Bishop, impressed by her work with the girls and young women, invited her to develop an organisation on a larger scale, to tackle what was called in Victorian times the problem of"fallen women". Domestic service was by far the largest employer of women, and those who gotpregnant out of wedlock faced losing not only their job but also their housing. Townsend decided to focus on prevention, by providing practical and moral support to what, a generation later, the Society's official historian called "working girls of unblemished character".^[4]

Fosbery introduced her to other key women: Elizabeth Carlyon, wife ofHarold Browne, Wilberforce's successor as Bishop of Winchester;Catharine Tait, founder of theLadies Diocescan Society in 1865 and wife ofArchibald Campbell Tait,Archbishop of Canterbury; andJane Senior, who shortly afterwards went on to co-found theMetropolitan Association for Befriending Young Servants. They met in 1874 atLambeth Palace, the official residence of the Archbishop of Canterbury, and founded theGirls' Friendly Society.

Its work began officially on 1 January 1875 and it soon became enormously successful. Townsend imagined from the outset that the Society would extend throughout the British Empire. In 1880 it received the royal patronage of Queen Victoria.^[5] By the turn of the century, it had established over 1300 branches and counted almost a quarter of a million members.^[6] The Society remained non-denominational, though it used the structures of the Church of England.

The official history, re-published in 1911, makes it clear that Townsend was the driving force behind the GFS, and that her genius was in seeing the need for structure. Men of all classes had their clubs and associations of mutual benefit; Townsend extended this to girls:

'When we see what wonders are accomplished in worldly matters, by the power oforganisation, association, andcooperation, when we know how strong are the links that bind together the members ofFreemasons' Clubs, ofBenefit Societies, themembers of different professions, and the like, surely we cannot but feel that this mighty lever should be used for the purpose of moral and spiritual benefit [...].' That was the idea which was then given to the world--not the idea of work for girls, but the idea oforganised work. There were isolated efforts in many directions, but the idea of an organised association for the upholding of the purity of Christian maidenhood, based upon the foundation of the national Church, was a totally new thought, and this we owe to our Foundress, both in its first inception and in its ultimate completion.^[7]

Townsend was the first president of the GFS and served as such through 1882.^[8] She was succeeded byLady Grey who served from 1883 through 1889, when Townsend again resumed the presidency from 1890 through 1892.^[9][10][11]

Also in 1875, Townsend's husband inheritedHonington Hall, a 17th-centurycountry house nearShipston-on-Stour, Warwickshire, where they lived from that point on.From 1886 he served as the Conservative MP forStratford-on-Avon, but did not stand againin 1892.

He died in 1905. She survived him by 13 years. They had no children.

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