Honor your father and motherThis commandment is rooted in the Ten Commandments (
Exodus 20:12;
Deuteronomy 5:16), emphasizing the importance of family structure and respect within the household. In ancient Jewish culture, honoring one's parents was not only a moral obligation but also a societal expectation, ensuring the stability and continuity of the family unit. This commandment is unique among the Ten Commandments as it comes with a promise of long life and prosperity in the land God gives (
Ephesians 6:2-3). The respect for parental authority reflects the broader biblical theme of submission to God-ordained authority, which is echoed in various New Testament passages (
Colossians 3:20). Jesus reiterates this commandment, underscoring its continued relevance in His teachings.
And love your neighbor as yourself.
This phrase is a direct reference toLeviticus 19:18 and is central to Jesus' teaching on the law. It encapsulates the ethical demands of the law, emphasizing love as the fulfillment of the law (Romans 13:9-10). In the cultural context of first-century Judaism, "neighbor" was often understood to mean fellow Israelites, but Jesus expands this definition in the parable of the Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25-37), illustrating that love should extend beyond ethnic and religious boundaries. This commandment is foundational to Christian ethics, as it calls for selfless love and empathy, reflecting the character of Christ Himself. The principle of loving one's neighbor is also seen as a reflection of the love God shows to humanity, and it is a call to imitate that divine love in human relationships.
Persons / Places / Events
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Jesus ChristThe speaker of this verse, Jesus is addressing a rich young man who inquires about eternal life.
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Rich Young ManA seeker of eternal life who approaches Jesus with questions about righteousness.
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DisciplesPresent during this interaction, they later question Jesus about the difficulty of entering the kingdom of heaven.
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Parents (Father and Mother)Representing the family unit, they are to be honored as per the commandment.
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NeighborSymbolizes all other people with whom one interacts, emphasizing the broader community.
Teaching Points
The Dual CommandmentJesus combines two commandments, emphasizing the importance of both family and community relationships in the life of a believer.
The Heart of the LawThese commandments encapsulate the essence of the Law, focusing on love and respect as foundational to righteous living.
Practical HonorHonoring parents involves respect, care, and obedience, reflecting a heart aligned with God's will.
Neighborly LoveLoving your neighbor requires active compassion, empathy, and service, mirroring Christ's love for us.
Holistic RighteousnessTrue righteousness is not just about personal piety but extends to how we treat others, both within our family and in the broader community.
Bible Study Questions and Answers
1.What is the meaning of Matthew 19:19?
2.How can we practically "honor your father and mother" in daily life today?
3.What does "love your neighbor as yourself" mean in modern society?
4.How does Matthew 19:19 connect with the Ten Commandments in Exodus 20?
5.In what ways can we demonstrate love to difficult neighbors or family members?
6.How does Matthew 19:19 guide our interactions within the church community?
7.How does Matthew 19:19 relate to the overall message of the New Testament?
8.Why is honoring parents emphasized in Matthew 19:19?
9.What historical context influenced the writing of Matthew 19:19?
10.What are the top 10 Lessons from Matthew 19?
11.Is the concept of a heavenly mother biblical?
12.What are the Bible's teachings on sexual ethics?
13.What are the Bible's teachings on marriage?
14.In Micah 7:6, families betray each other—how does this square with other biblical commands to honor and love one’s family?What Does Matthew 19:19 Mean
Honor your father and motherJesus cites the fifth commandment (Exodus 20:12;Deuteronomy 5:16), reminding the rich young ruler that genuine righteousness begins at home. Scripture insists that honoring parents involves more than polite words:
• Respectful attitude—“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right” (Ephesians 6:1-3).
• Willing obedience—Proverbs 23:22 urges, “Listen to your father who gave you life.”
• Material care—1 Timothy 5:4 calls adult children to “practice piety…by caring for their own family,” and Jesus condemns those who sidestep this duty through religious excuses (Mark 7:9-13).
By affirming this command, Jesus places reverence for parental authority on the same plane as other moral absolutes. If the young man’s wealth prevented him from honoring his parents with time, attention, or resources, the command exposed that flaw.
Love your neighbor as yourselfQuotingLeviticus 19:18, Jesus moves the focus outward. This call is expansive, summed up later by Paul: “Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law” (Romans 13:10). Key dimensions include:
• Active goodwill—Galatians 5:14 notes that the entire law is “fulfilled in a single decree: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”
• Practical mercy—1 John 3:17-18 challenges believers to meet tangible needs, echoing the Good Samaritan example (Luke 10:25-37).
• Equality of concern—“as yourself” sets the standard; the same desire for security, respect, and blessing you have for your life becomes the measure for how you treat others (Matthew 7:12).
InMatthew 19, Jesus uses this command to probe the ruler’s heart: would he value others enough to release his possessions for their benefit (Matthew 19:21)?
SummaryMatthew 19:19 shows that love for God cannot be detached from love expressed toward people. Honoring parents tests the sincerity of faith within the household; loving neighbors tests it in the wider world. Together these commands expose self-centeredness, direct believers toward self-emptying love, and affirm that obedience to Scripture’s plain words is central to following Christ.
Verse 19. -
Honour, etc. Lange considers that in this verse we have a summary of the two tables, "Honour thy father and mother," summing up the commandments of the first; and "Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself," those of the second (
Leviticus 19:18).
Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. St. Mark and St. Luke omit this clause; the latter adds, "Defraud not." According to our text, Christ gives four negative and two positive commands: the last being a summary taken from
Leviticus 19:18 (comp.
Romans 13:9, 10;
Galatians 5:14). It has been questioned why our Lord omits the tenth commandment (as we call it) from the catalogue. Virtually he introduces it in ver. 21; but he may have refrained from formally mentioning it because covetousness was the ruler's besetting sin, and the marked omission of this precept might force the man to reflect upon this failing, which would wreck his spiritual life. On the other hand, it may be that Christ is not intending to give an epitome of man's duty; but affording merely an outline of the same, he naturally passes over some portion without special mention.
Parallel Commentaries ...
Greek
honorΤίμα(Tima)Verb - Present Imperative Active - 2nd Person Singular
Strong's 5091:From timios; to prize, i.e. Fix a valuation upon; by implication, to revere.[your]τὸν(ton)Article - Accusative Masculine Singular
Strong's 3588:The, the definite article. Including the feminine he, and the neuter to in all their inflections; the definite article; the.fatherπατέρα(patera)Noun - Accusative Masculine Singular
Strong's 3962:Father, (Heavenly) Father, ancestor, elder, senior. Apparently a primary word; a 'father'.andκαὶ(kai)Conjunction
Strong's 2532:And, even, also, namely.mother,μητέρα(mētera)Noun - Accusative Feminine Singular
Strong's 3384:A mother. Apparently a primary word; a 'mother'.andκαὶ(kai)Conjunction
Strong's 2532:And, even, also, namely.loveἈγαπήσεις(Agapēseis)Verb - Future Indicative Active - 2nd Person Singular
Strong's 25:To love, wish well to, take pleasure in, long for; denotes the love of reason, esteem. Perhaps from agan; to love.yourσου(sou)Personal / Possessive Pronoun - Genitive 2nd Person Singular
Strong's 4771:You. The person pronoun of the second person singular; thou.neighborπλησίον(plēsion)Adverb
Strong's 4139:Near, nearby, a neighbor. Neuter of a derivative of pelas; close by; as noun, a neighbor, i.e. Fellow.asὡς(hōs)Adverb
Strong's 5613:Probably adverb of comparative from hos; which how, i.e. In that manner.yourself.’”σεαυτόν(seauton)Personal / Possessive Pronoun - Accusative Masculine 2nd Person Singular
Strong's 4572:Of yourself.
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