Marriage should be honored by allMarriage is a divine institution established by God in
Genesis 2:24, where a man and woman are united as one flesh. This phrase emphasizes the universal respect and sanctity that should be accorded to marriage, transcending cultural and temporal boundaries. In the biblical context, marriage is not merely a social contract but a covenant reflecting God's relationship with His people, as seen in
Ephesians 5:31-32. The call for all to honor marriage underscores its foundational role in society and the church, promoting stability and reflecting God's order.
and the marriage bed kept undefiled
The marriage bed symbolizes the sexual union between husband and wife, which is to remain pure and exclusive. This purity is rooted in the commandment against adultery found inExodus 20:14. The defilement of the marriage bed through sexual immorality undermines the covenantal nature of marriage and distorts the image of Christ's pure relationship with the church. In1 Corinthians 6:18-20, believers are reminded that their bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, further emphasizing the need for sexual purity.
for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers
This phrase serves as a solemn warning of divine accountability. Sexual immorality, which includes fornication and adultery, is consistently condemned throughout Scripture, as seen in passages like1 Corinthians 6:9-10 andGalatians 5:19-21. The judgment of God is both a present reality and a future certainty, as He is holy and just. This warning is intended to encourage believers to live in obedience and holiness, reflecting the transformative power of the Gospel. The reference to God's judgment also serves as a reminder of the eschatological hope and the ultimate restoration of all things in Christ.
Persons / Places / Events
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Author of HebrewsTraditionally attributed to Paul, though the exact authorship is uncertain. The author writes to Jewish Christians, encouraging them to remain faithful to Christ.
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Jewish ChristiansThe primary audience of the letter, who were facing persecution and were tempted to revert to Judaism.
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MarriageA sacred institution established by God, emphasized here as deserving honor and purity.
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Sexually Immoral and AdulterersIndividuals who engage in sexual relations outside the bounds of marriage, which the scripture warns will face God's judgment.
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God's JudgmentThe divine evaluation and consequence for actions, particularly concerning sexual immorality and adultery.
Teaching Points
Honor in MarriageMarriage is a divine institution that should be respected and upheld by all believers. It reflects the relationship between Christ and the Church.
Purity in the Marriage BedThe marriage bed should remain undefiled, meaning that sexual relations are reserved for the marriage covenant alone. This purity is a reflection of faithfulness and commitment.
Consequences of Sexual ImmoralityGod’s judgment on sexual immorality and adultery serves as a warning to maintain moral integrity. Believers are called to live in a way that honors God’s design for sexuality.
Community ResponsibilityThe call to honor marriage is not just for married individuals but for the entire Christian community. Supporting and upholding the sanctity of marriage is a collective responsibility.
Reflecting Christ’s LoveIn marriage, believers have the opportunity to reflect Christ’s sacrificial love and commitment. This serves as a powerful testimony to the world.
Bible Study Questions and Answers
1.What is the meaning of Hebrews 13:4?
2.How does Hebrews 13:4 define the sanctity of marriage for believers today?
3.What actions can honor marriage as "held in honor by all"?
4.How does Hebrews 13:4 connect with Genesis 2:24 on marital unity?
5.Why is sexual purity important according to Hebrews 13:4 and 1 Corinthians 6:18?
6.How can we practically uphold marriage as "undefiled" in our daily lives?
7.How does Hebrews 13:4 define the sanctity of marriage in a modern context?
8.Why does Hebrews 13:4 emphasize the judgment of the sexually immoral and adulterers?
9.How does Hebrews 13:4 align with historical views on marriage?
10.What are the top 10 Lessons from Hebrews 13?
11.What does "marriage bed undefiled" mean?
12.What does 'marriage bed undefiled' mean?
13.Is anal sex considered a sin in the Bible?
14.Is it wrong for Christians to wear lingerie?What Does Hebrews 13:4 Mean
Marriage should be honored by all“Marriage should be honored by all…” (Hebrews 13:4a)
• God Himself instituted marriage inGenesis 2:24, where “a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”
• Jesus reaffirmed this design inMatthew 19:4–6, adding, “What God has joined together, let man not separate.”
• Because marriage pictures Christ’s relationship with His church (Ephesians 5:31–32), every believer—married or single—treats it with reverence.
• Honoring marriage means:
– speaking of it with respect, not cynicism
– supporting couples in their vows
– teaching children the beauty of covenant commitment
– refusing to normalize divorce or cohabitation as equal alternatives
and the marriage bed kept undefiled“…and the marriage bed kept undefiled…” (Hebrews 13:4b)
• God designed sexual intimacy exclusively for husband and wife (Proverbs 5:18–19;1 Corinthians 7:2–5).
• “Flee from sexual immorality” (1 Corinthians 6:18–20) applies inside as well as outside marriage—pornography, emotional affairs, and any form of exploitation defile the bed.
•1 Thessalonians 4:3–5 underscores the call to “holiness and honor” rather than “passionate lust.”
• Practical safeguards:
– cultivate open communication about temptations
– set wise boundaries with media and friendships
– prioritize mutual affection and time together
– seek counsel quickly when trust is threatened
for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers“…for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers.” (Hebrews 13:4c)
• God’s judgment is certain and personal: “We must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ” (2 Corinthians 5:10).
• Sexual sin is singled out because it uniquely profanes the “one flesh” covenant (Malachi 2:14–16;1 Corinthians 6:15–16).
• Scripture warns that “the sexually immoral… will not inherit the kingdom of God” (1 Corinthians 6:9–10) and that “the sexually immoral and sorcerers and idolaters and all liars” face the “lake that burns with fire” (Revelation 21:8).
• Yet grace is available: “Such were some of you, but you were washed… in the name of the Lord Jesus” (1 Corinthians 6:11). Repentance restores fellowship and purity.
summaryHebrews 13:4 calls every believer to treasure God’s gift of marriage, protect the purity of marital intimacy, and remember the Lord’s righteous judgment. Honoring marriage blesses families, strengthens the church, and shines a countercultural witness to a world desperate for steadfast love.
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Marriage is honourable in all.--Rather,
Let marriage be held in honour among all, and let the bed be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. The precept is directed against impurity (
Hebrews 12:16), and also against the false asceticism of men "forbidding to marry" (
1Timothy 4:3). The laxity of morals among Gentiles (Note on
Acts 15:20) and the prevalence of divorce amongst Jews (
Matthew 5:32) explain the sudden introduction of such warnings: of these sinners the all-seeing God will be the judge. (Comp.
1Thessalonians 4:6.)
Verse 4. -
Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. So in the A.V. the first clause of this verse, which is taken as an assertion, the copula
ἔστι, being understood. So it is also taken by Chrysostom and other ancients. If so, it is a declaration, interposed among hortations, of the honorableness of the" estate of matrimony," with the hortatory purpose of suggesting this "remedy against sin "(as in
1 Corinthians 7:9), or as a protest against false asceticism, such as is alluded to in
1 Timothy 4:3, "forbidding to marry." And certainly the expression,
τίμιος ὁ γάμος, taken by itself, would most naturally have this meaning. But most modern commentators understand it as an exhortation, supplying
ἔστω; and this for the following cogent reasons: it occurs in the midst of a series of exhortations, and is therefore more likely to be one; it is difficult to understand the connected clause, "and the bed undefiled (
καὶ ἡ κοίτη ἀμίαντος)," as a statement; and the exactly similar phrase in ver. 5,
ἀφιλάργυρος ὁ τρόπος, seems evidently hortatory. Hence we take it to mean "Let marriage
beτίμος ἐν πᾶσον." Two questions remain - that of the import of
τίμιος, and whether
πᾶσιν is masculine or neuter.
Τίμιος elsewhere, when applied to persons, means "held in honor" (as in
Acts 5:34, of Gamaliel); when applied to things, it means "precious" (as in
1 Corinthians 3:12;
Revelation 17:4;
Revelation 18:12, 16;
Revelation 21:19, of precious stones; in
1 Peter 1:19, of the blood of the Lamb;
2 Peter 1:4, of promises;
Acts 20:24, of "my own life;"
James 5:7, of the fruit of the earth). Bengel explains thus: "Caelibes, quibus periculum scortationis imminet, hortatur ut matrimonium contrahant, tanquam
pretiosum quiddam agnoscentes, ejusque bone digne utantur. Conf.
1 Thessalonians 4:4.' And, taking
πᾶσιν as masculine, he explains further: "Omnesque debent matrimonium magni facere, ut, si quis eo ipse non utatur, alios tamen non prohibeat." According to this view the first clause is an injunction to all to appreciate marriage, the second warns those that are married against any violation of the bond: "
Τίμιος γάμος antitheton ad scortatotes,
κοίτη ἀμίαντος ad adulteros" (Bengel). But the more natural, and the usual, meaning of the common expression
ἐν πᾶσιν is "in all things," not "among all persons" (cf.
Jaffa, ver. 18; also
Colossians 1:18;
Titus 2:9;
1 Timothy 3:2;
2 Timothy 4:5). If so here,
τίμιος ὁ γάμος must be taken rather as an injunction with respect to the sanctity of marriage when contracted: "Let it be held in honor in all respects; in all ways reverently regarded as a holy bond;" the succeeding clause,
ἡ κοίτη ἀμίαντος, being a further explication of the same idea (cf.
1 Thessalonians 4:4, "
That every one of you should know how to possess his own vessel [meaning, probably, as seems to be required by the verb
κτᾶσθαι, 'get to himself his own
wife] in sanctification and
honor (
ἐν ἀγιασμῷ καὶτιμῇ);" where
ἐν τιμῇ may express the same ides as
τίμιος in the text). 'In the conclusion of the verse "for" (
γὰρ) suits the drift of the sentence as above understood, and is considered to be supported better than "but" (
δὲ) of the Textus Receptus. Observe, lastly, that, in "God will judge," "God" is emphatic, being placed last. Though the kind of sin spoken of is lightly regarded among men, and may escape detection or punishment now, yet certainly
God will judge it (cf.
1 Thessalonians 4:6, "God is the Avenger of all such, as we have also forewarned you and testified;" and
1 Corinthians 6:9, where fornicators and adulterers are included among those about whom Christians are not to deceive themselves, as though they would "inherit the kingdom of God").
Parallel Commentaries ...
Greek
Marriageγάμος(gamos)Noun - Nominative Masculine Singular
Strong's 1062:A marriage, wedding, wedding-ceremony; plur: a wedding-feast. Of uncertain affinity; nuptials.should be honoredΤίμιος(Timios)Adjective - Nominative Masculine Singular
Strong's 5093:Of great price, precious, honored.byἐν(en)Preposition
Strong's 1722:In, on, among. A primary preposition denoting position, and instrumentality, i.e. A relation of rest; 'in, ' at, on, by, etc.allπᾶσιν(pasin)Adjective - Dative Masculine Plural
Strong's 3956:All, the whole, every kind of. Including all the forms of declension; apparently a primary word; all, any, every, the whole.andκαὶ(kai)Conjunction
Strong's 2532:And, even, also, namely.theἡ(hē)Article - Nominative Feminine Singular
Strong's 3588:The, the definite article. Including the feminine he, and the neuter to in all their inflections; the definite article; the.marriage bedκοίτη(koitē)Noun - Nominative Feminine Singular
Strong's 2845:From keimai; a couch; by extension, cohabitation; by implication, the male sperm.kept undefiled,ἀμίαντος(amiantos)Adjective - Nominative Feminine Singular
Strong's 283:Undefiled, untainted, free from contamination. Unsoiled, i.e. pure.forγὰρ(gar)Conjunction
Strong's 1063:For. A primary particle; properly, assigning a reason.GodΘεός(Theos)Noun - Nominative Masculine Singular
Strong's 2316:A deity, especially the supreme Divinity; figuratively, a magistrate; by Hebraism, very.will judgeκρινεῖ(krinei)Verb - Future Indicative Active - 3rd Person Singular
Strong's 2919:Properly, to distinguish, i.e. Decide; by implication, to try, condemn, punish.the sexually immoralπόρνους(pornous)Noun - Accusative Masculine Plural
Strong's 4205:A fornicator, man who prostitutes himself. From pernemi; a prostitute, i.e. a debauchee.andκαὶ(kai)Conjunction
Strong's 2532:And, even, also, namely.adulterers.μοιχοὺς(moichous)Noun - Accusative Masculine Plural
Strong's 3432:An adulterer, that is, a man who is guilty with a married woman. Perhaps a primary word; a paramour; figuratively, apostate.
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