Cunnilingus can be sexually arousing for participants and may be performed by asexual partner asforeplay to incite sexual arousal before other sexual activities (such asvaginal oranal intercourse)[6][7] or as an erotic and physically intimate act on its own.[6][2] Cunnilingus can be a risk for contractingsexually transmitted infections (STIs), but the transmission risk from oral sex, especially ofHIV, is significantly lower than for vaginal or anal sex.[8][9]
Oral sex is often regarded astaboo,[6] but most countries do not have laws which ban the practice. Commonly, heterosexual couples do not regard cunnilingus as affecting thevirginity of either partner, whilelesbian couples commonly do regard it as a form of virginity loss.[10][11][12] People may also have negative feelings orsexual inhibitions about giving or receiving cunnilingus or may refuse to engage in it.[6]
Etymology and terminology
The termcunnilingus is derived from theLatin words for vulva (cunnus) and the verb "to lick" (lingere).[13] There are numerous slang terms for cunnilingus, including "drinking from the furry cup",[14] "carpet munching", and "muff-diving". Additional common slang terms used are "giving lip", "lip service", or "tipping the velvet"; this last is an expression that novelistSarah Waters claims to have "plucked from the relative obscurity of Victorian porn".[15] It is also popularly known in the urban community as "dining at the Y" or "DATY".[16]: 190 n.1 A person who performs cunnilingus may be referred to as a "cunnilinguist".[17] It is also referred to by more ambiguous terminology nonspecific to the form of oral sex performed (e.g., "getting or givinghead" or "going down" on someone).
General statistics indicate that 70–80% of women requireclitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm.[18][19]Shere Hite's research onhuman female sexuality reports that, for most women, orgasm is easily achieved by cunnilingus because of the direct stimulation of theclitoral glans andshaft (including stimulation to other external parts of the vulva that are physically related to the clitoris) that may be involved during the act.[20][21]
The essential aspect of cunnilingus is oral stimulation of the vulva by licking with the tongue, use of the lips, or some combination.[22] The nose, chin, and teeth might be used as well. During the activity, the performer may use fingers to open thelabia majora (the vulva's outer lips) to enable the tongue to better stimulate the clitoris, or the female may separate the labia herself for her partner. Separating the legs wide would also usually open the vulva sufficiently for the partner to orally reach the clitoris.
The performer may also stimulate thelabia minora (inner lips of the vulva) by using the lips or tongue.[23] Movements can be slow or fast, regular or erratic, firm or soft, according to the participants' preferences. The tongue can be inserted into thevagina, either stiffened or moving.[24] The performing partner may also hum to produce vibration.
Women may considerpersonal hygiene before practicing oral sex important, as poor hygiene can lead to odors, accumulation of sweat and micro-residue (such aslint, urine or menstrual blood), which the giving partner may find unpleasant. Some womenremove or trim their pubic hair.
Cunnilingus may be performed on amenstruating partner, which is called "to earn one's red wings" in slang.[31][32] The phrase is a reference to menstrual blood stains in the shape of a small bird's wings that are liable to form on the giving partner's cheeks during the act.[32][33]
The red wing patch was common among theHells Angels by the mid-1960s,[34] and the slang term continued to be known amongbiker gangs in the 1980s.[31]Gershon Legman saw the act/badge not only as functioning ahomosocial tie, but also as reflecting a deep and primitive belief in the lifegiving powers of blood.[35]
Theelder Mirabeau, in hisErotika Biblion of 1783,[36] saw cunnilingus during menstruation as an extreme act, linked with the submissive worship of theMother goddess,[37] and by extension to theBlack Mass.[38]
Prevalence
In a Canadian study, 89% of heterosexual and bisexual men had practiced cunnilingus. 94% of them enjoyed it. Of the latter, 76% practiced it often or very often. Reasons for not practicing cunnilingus included lack of opportunity (73%) and disgust (13%). This suggests that much more than 89% of men would practice cunnilingus if they had a chance.[39]
Health aspects
Sexually transmitted infections
Chlamydia,human papillomavirus (HPV),gonorrhea,syphilis,herpes,hepatitis (multiple strains), and othersexually transmitted infections (STIs) can be transmitted through oral sex.[8][40][41] Any sexual exchange of bodily fluids with a person infected withHIV, the virus that causesAIDS, poses a risk of infection. Risk of STI infection, however, is generally considered significantly lower for oral sex than forvaginal oranal sex, with HIV transmission considered the lowest risk with regard to oral sex.[8][9][42][43] Furthermore, the documented risk of HIV transmission through cunnilingus is lower than that associated withfellatio, vaginal or anal intercourse.[8]
There is an increased risk of STI if the receiving partner has wounds on her vulva, or if the giving partner has wounds or open sores on or in their mouth, orbleeding gums.[8][9] Brushing the teeth, flossing, or undergoing dental work soon before or after performing cunnilingus can also increase the risk of transmission, because all of these activities can cause small scratches in the lining of the mouth.[8][9][44] These wounds, even when they aremicroscopic, increase the chances of contracting STIs that can be transmitted orally under these conditions.[8][9] Such contact can also lead to more mundane infections from commonbacteria andviruses found in, around and secreted from the genital regions. Because of the aforementioned factors, medical sources advise the use ofeffective barrier methods when performing or receiving cunnilingus with a partner whose STI status is unknown.[8][9][41]
Cunnilingus during menstruation is considered high risk for the partner performing cunnilingus because there may be a high concentration of virus in menstrual blood,[45] such ashepatitis B.[46]
HPV and oral cancer
Links have been reported between oral sex andoral cancer with human papillomavirus (HPV)-infected people.[47]
A 2007 study found acorrelation between oral sex andthroat cancer.[48][49] It is believed that this is due to the transmission of HPV, a virus that has been implicated in the majority of cervical cancers and which has been detected in throat cancer tissue in numerous studies. The study concludes that people who had one to five oral sex partners in their lifetime had approximately a doubled risk of throat cancer compared with those who never engaged in this activity, and those with more than five oral sex partners had a 250 percent increased risk.
Mechanical trauma to the tongue
Thelingual frenulum (underside of the tongue) is vulnerable toulceration by repeated friction during sexual activity ("cunnilingus tongue").[50] Ulceration of the lingual frenulum caused by cunnilingus is horizontal, the lesion corresponding to the contact of the under surface of the tongue with the edges of the lower front teeth when the tongue is in its most forward position. This type of lesion resolves in 7–10 days, but may recur with repeated performances. Chronic ulceration at this site can cause linear fibroushyperplasia. The incisal edges of the mandibular teeth can be smoothed to minimize the chance of trauma.[51]
Cultural views on giving or receiving cunnilingus range from aversion to high regard.[6] It has been consideredtaboo, or discouraged, in many cultures and parts of the world.[6] InTaoism, cunnilingus is revered as aspiritually fulfilling practice that is believed to enhance longevity.[52]In modernWestern culture, oral sex is widely practiced among adolescents[53] and adults. Laws of some jurisdictions regard cunnilingus aspenetrative sex for the purposes ofsexual offenses with regard to the act, but most countries do not have laws which ban the practice, in contrast to anal sex orextramarital sex.
People give various reasons for their dislike or reluctance to perform cunnilingus, or having cunnilingus performed on them. Some regard cunnilingus and other forms of oral sex as unnatural because the practices do not result in reproduction.[54] Some cultures attach symbolism to different parts of the body, leading some people to believe that cunnilingus is ritually unclean or humiliating.[55]
While commonly believed thatlesbian sexual practices involve cunnilingus for allwomen who have sex with women, some lesbian or bisexual women dislike cunnilingus due to not liking the experience or due to psychological or social factors, such as regarding it as unclean.[56][57][58] Other lesbian or bisexual women believe that it is a necessity or largely defines lesbian sexual activity.[57][58] Lesbian couples are more likely to consider a woman's dislike of cunnilingus as a problem than heterosexual couples are, and it is common for them to seek therapy to overcomeinhibitions regarding it.[57]
Oral sex is also commonly used as a means of preservingvirginity, especially among heterosexual pairings; this is sometimes termedtechnical virginity (which additionally includes anal sex,manual sex and othernon-penetrative sex acts, but excludes penile-vaginal sex).[10][11][59][60] The concept of "technical virginity" orsexual abstinence through oral sex is particularly popular among teenagers.[11][44][61] By contrast, lesbian pairings commonly consider oral sex or fingering as resulting in virginity loss, though definitions of virginity loss vary among lesbians as well.[10][12][62]
Taoism
Cunnilingus is accorded a revered place inTaoism. This is because the practice was believed to achieve longevity, by preventing the loss of semen, whose loss is believed to bring about a corresponding loss of vitality. Conversely, by either semen retention or ingesting the secretions from the vagina, a person can conserve and increase theirqi, or original vital breath.[52]
According to Philip Rawson, these half-poetic, half-medicinal metaphors explain the popularity of cunnilingus among people: "The practice was an excellent method of imbibing the precious feminine fluid".[52] However, these notions entail a lack of actual interest in pleasing the female partner and an effort to benefit at her expense, which has ledsinologistKristofer Schipper to denounce the ancient handbooks on the "Art of the Bedroom" as embracing a "kind of glorified male vampirism" that is not truly Taoist at all.[63]
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