American culture, self-deprecation, everyday life, religion, current events
Phyllis Ada Diller (néeDriver; July 17, 1917 – August 20, 2012) was an American stand-up comedian, actress, author, musician and visual artist, best known for hereccentric stage persona,self-deprecating humor, wild hair and clothes, and exaggerated, cackling laugh.
Diller was one of the first female comics to become a household name in the United States, credited as an influence byJoan Rivers,Roseanne Barr andEllen DeGeneres, among others.[2] She had a large gay following.[3] She was also one of the first celebrities to openly championplastic surgery, for which she was recognized by the cosmetic surgery industry.[4]
Diller was born Phyllis Ada Driver inLima, Ohio on July 17, 1917, the only child of Perry Marcus Driver,[5] an insurance agent, and Frances Ada (née Romshe).[5][6][7] She had German and Irish ancestry (the surname "Driver" had been changed from "Treiber" several generations earlier).[5] She was raisedMethodist but was a lifelong atheist, even in childhood.[8][9][10] Her father and mother were older than most when she was born (55 and 36, respectively) and Diller attended several funerals while growing up. The exposure to death at a young age led her to an early appreciation for life and she later realized that her comedy was a form of therapy.[11]
Diller attended Lima's Central High School, discovering early on she had comic gifts. Later, Diller observed, "I was always a pro— even as a little tiny kid. I was an absolutely perfect, quiet, dedicated student in class. But outside of class, I got my laughs."[12] Diller studied piano for three[13] years at the Sherwood Music Conservatory ofColumbia College Chicago, but decided against a career in music after hearing her teachers and mentors play with much more skill than she thought that she would be able to achieve, and transferred toBluffton College where she studiedliterature,history,psychology andphilosophy.
In 1939, she met Sherwood Diller, the brother of a classmate at Bluffton,[13] and theyeloped,[14] marrying in Bluffton on November 4, 1939.[5] Diller did not finish college and was primarily a homemaker, taking care of their five children (a sixth child died in infancy).[5][15][16]
Diller began working as the women's editor at a small newspaper,[20] and as an advertising copywriter for an Oakland department store.[18]
In 1952, Diller began working in broadcasting atKROW radio inOakland, California. In November of that year, she filmed several 15-minute episodes ofPhyllis Dillis, the Homely Friendmaker—dressed in a housecoat to offer absurd "advice" to homemakers.[21] The 15-minute series was aBay Area Radio-Television production, directed for television by ABC's Jim Baker.[22][21] Diller also worked as a copywriter, later, director of promotion and marketing,[14] atKSFO radio in San Francisco[23] and a vocalist for a music-review TV show calledPop Club, hosted byDon Sherwood.[24][25]
"It took two years of nagging by my husband to get me onto that stage," she (Diller) toldNachman. Finally, she said, she "sat down, called theRed Cross and said, 'I have an act. Where do you want it?' They sent me to theveterans hospital at thePresidio, where I pushed a piano into a room that had four guys in it. I played, sang, told jokes while they yelled, 'Leave us alone; we're already in pain!'[20]
At age 37, on March 7, 1955, at theNorth Beach, San Franciscobasement club,[26]The Purple Onion, she made her professional stand-up debut.[20] Up until then, she had only tried out her jokes for fellow PTA members at nearby Edison Elementary School.[27]Maya Angelou, who was already performing at the club, wrote that Diller "would not change her name because when she became successful she wanted everyone to know it was, indeed, her herself".[28] Her first professional show was a success and the two-week booking stretched out to a record[14] 89 consecutive weeks.[29] Diller had found her calling and eventual financial success while her husband's business career failed. She explained, "I became a stand-up comedian because I had a sit-down husband."[12]
In a 1986 NPR interview, Diller said she had no idea what she was doing when she started playing clubs and in the beginning, she never saw another woman on the comedy circuit. With no female role models in a male-dominated industry, she initially used props and drew from her educational and work background as a basis for satire, spoofing classical music concerts and advice columns.[30] She wrote her own material and kept a file cabinet full of her gags, honing her nightclub act.Sid Caesar,Milton Berle andJonathan Winters were early influences, but Diller developed a singular comedic persona — asurreal version of femininity. This absurd caricature with garish baggy dresses and gigantic, clownish hair made fun of her lack of sex appeal while brandishing a cigarette holder (with a wooden cigarette because she didn't smoke), punctuating the humor with a hearty cackle to show she was in on the joke.[12] At the time, Diller said, "They had no idea what I was. It was like—'Get a stick and kill it before it multiplies!'"[29]
Her first national television appearance was as a contestant onGroucho Marx's quiz showYou Bet Your Life in 1958.[31] Multiple bookings on the Jack PaarTonight Show led to an appearance onThe Ed Sullivan Show, which brought her national prominence as she continued to perform stand-up throughout the United States.[29][32]
Starting in 1959 and throughout the 1960s, she released multiple comedy albums, including the titlesWet Toe in a Hot Socket!,Laughs,Are You Ready for Phyllis Diller?, andThe Beautiful Phyllis Diller.[33]
In the early 1960s, Diller performed at the Bon Soir in Greenwich Village, where an up-and-comingBarbra Streisand was her opening act.[12] She was offered film work and became famous after co-starring with her mentorBob Hope, who described her as "aWarhol mobile of spare parts picked up along a freeway."[38] They worked together in films such asBoy, Did I Get a Wrong Number! (1966),Eight on the Lam (1967), andThe Private Navy of Sgt. O'Farrell (1968), all critically panned, but did well at the box office. Diller accompanied Hope toVietnam in 1966 with hisUSO troupe near the height of theVietnam War.[39]
She appeared regularly as a special guest on many television programs includingThe Andy Williams Show. She was a Mystery Guest onWhat's My Line? but the blindfolded panel (includingSammy Davis Jr.) discerned Diller's identity in three guesses. Diller made regular cameo appearances, making her trademark wisecracks onRowan & Martin's Laugh-In. Self-deprecating to a fault, a typical Diller joke had her running after a garbage truck pulling away from her curb. "Am I too late for the trash?" she would yell. The driver's reply: "No, jump right in!" She became a semi-regular onThe Hollywood Squares, starting in 1967, appearing in 28 episodes until 1980.[40]
Diller continued to work in film, making an appearance asTexas Guinan, the wisecracking nightclub hostess inSplendor in the Grass (1961). Throughout the 1960s, she appeared in more than a dozen, usually low-budget, films. She also began a career in voice work, providing the voice of the Monster's Mate inMad Monster Party? (1967).
Diller also starred in the short-lived television seriesThe Pruitts of Southampton (1966–1967); later retitledThe Phyllis Diller Show, a half-hour sitcom onABC. She received a Golden Globe nomination in 1967 for her role inPruitts.[41] Diller hosted a variety show in 1968 titledThe Beautiful Phyllis Diller Show.[42]
Citing advanced age and a lack of "lasting energy," Diller retired from stand-up in 2002. Her final performance was at the Suncoast that year in Las Vegas, Nevada. At the time she stated, "If you can't dance to comedy, forget it. It's music."[31] The 2004 documentaryGoodnight, We Love You: The Life and Legend of Phyllis Diller, directed by Gregg Barson, was shot on the night of her last performance. It follows Diller to a press conference, backstage, and into her home, to cover the story of her career.Rip Taylor,Don Rickles,Roseanne Barr,Red Buttons,Jo Anne Worley andLily Tomlin are featured, discussing Diller's comedy legacy.[49]
Although retired from the stand-up circuit, Diller never fully left the entertainment industry. In 2005, she was featured as one of many contemporary comics in the documentaryThe Aristocrats. Diller, who avoidedblue comedy, did a version of an old, risqué vaudeville routine, in which she describes herself passing out when she first heard the joke, forgetting the actual content of the joke.
On January 24, 2007, Diller appeared onThe Tonight Show and performed stand-up before chatting withJay Leno. Leno has stated that Diller would infrequently call him to contribute jokes during his time as the host ofThe Tonight Show.[50] The same year she had a cameo appearance portraying herself in an episode ofBoston Legal. In 2011, she appeared in an episode of her friendRoseanne Barr's reality showRoseanne's Nuts.
Publishing her first best seller in 1966 and releasing more throughout the decade, Diller's books on domestic life featured her self-deprecating humor. The titles includePhyllis Diller's Housekeeping Hints,Phyllis Diller's Marriage Manual, andThe Complete Mother.[29] In 1981, she publishedThe Joys of Aging & How to Avoid Them.[12]
Her autobiography,Like a Lampshade in a Whorehouse – My Life in Comedy, co-written with Richard Buskin, was published in 2006. In it, Diller told of an unhappy childhood with undemonstrative, emotionally withholding parents, and an equally unhappy first marriage. From these beginnings, her performing style—telling rapid-fire jokes—emerged, which she compared to music: "One joke followed the other with a flow and a rhythm. ... Everything had a natural feel to it."[23]
Diller had studied the piano for many years and was an accomplished player but decided against a career in music after hearing her teachers and mentors play with much more skill than she thought that she would be able to achieve. She still played in her private life, however, and owned a custom-madeharpsichord.[52]
Between 1971 and 1981, Diller appeared as a piano soloist with symphony orchestras across the country under the stage name Dame Illya Dillya. Her performances were spiced with humor, but she took the music seriously. A review of one of her concerts inThe San Francisco Examiner called her "a fine concert pianist with a firm touch."[53]
A self-taught artist, Diller began painting in 1963. She worked in acrylics, watercolors, and oils throughout the 1970s and filled her Brentwood, California home with her portraits and still lifes. In 2003, at age 86, she held the first of several "art parties", selling her artwork along with her stage clothes and costume jewelry.[54][55]
Diller credited much of her success to a motivational book,The Magic of Believing[56] (1948) by Claude M. Bristol, which gave her confidence at the start of her career.[57][35][58] She was married and divorced twice. She had six children from her marriage with her first husband Sherwood Anderson Diller, and she outlived two of her grown children.[10]
Diller's second husband was actor Warde Donovan, whom she married on October 7, 1965. She filed for divorce three months later, after discovering Donovan was bisexual and an alcoholic, but they reconciled on the day before the divorce was to become final. The couple divorced in 1975.[10] Robert P. Hastings was her partner from 1985 until his death on May 23, 1996.[6] In a 2000 interview, she called him the love of her life, saying that he admired her for being an independent person.[59] The character of "Fang", the husband whom she frequently mentioned in her act, sprang from an appropriation of elements of the comic stripThe Lockhorns.[60]
Diller portrayed herself as a horrible cook in her stand-up routines, but she was reputed to be an excellent cook. She licensed her recipe for chili and sold it nationally as "Phyllis Diller Chili".[61]
Diller candidly discussed herplastic surgery, a series of procedures first undertaken when she was 55, and she wrote that she had undergone 15 procedures.[10] Her numerous surgeries were the subject of a20/20 segment on February 12, 1993.
By 1997, as she passed her 80th birthday, Diller began to suffer from various ailments. In 1999, her heart stopped during a hospital stay. She was fitted with apacemaker but had a bad drug reaction and became paralyzed. Through physical therapy, she was able to walk again.[59] Approaching age 90, Diller retired from stand-up comedy appearances.
On July 11, 2007,USA Today reported that she had fractured her back and had to cancel an appearance onThe Tonight Show, during which she had planned to celebrate her 90th birthday. On May 15, 2012, Diller conducted her final interview accepting the "Lifetime Achievement" award from her hometown of Lima, Ohio, as part of a panel of comedians.[62]
Diller died at home in theBrentwood neighborhood of Los Angeles on August 20, 2012, at age 95, fromheart failure. She was cremated, and her ashes were scattered at sea.[63][64][65]
Barr, who listened to Diller's records as a child, called her a true artist and revolutionary, saying, "It was timeless, that wacky, tacky character she created; the cigarette holder was genius, paradoxically regal. She was a victorious loser hero, the female iteration of Chaplin'sLittle Tramp."[68]
Fellow comic Joan Rivers paid tribute to Diller's early-career woman's point of view, saying, "She was the first one that there was such rage and such anger in her comedy. She had the anger that is now in all of us. And that's what made it so funny because she spoke for all these women that were sitting home with five children and a husband that didn't work."[15]
Diller had a large gay following from the beginning of her career, once saying, "My first audience were gay people because they have a great sense of humor."[69] An obituary inQueerty noted her popularity with gay audiences calling her a "strong-willed entertainer who challenged the status quo regarding gender and sexuality." She enjoyed the company of gay men,[70] writing in her memoir,Like a Lampshade in a Whorehouse: My Life in Comedy: "Gay men have the most wonderful sense of humor. And they are willing to laugh. They appeal to me and I appeal to them."[3] In 2021,Ginger Minj portrayed Diller in theSnatch Game of Love on thesixth season ofRuPaul's Drag Race All Stars.
ANew York Times remembrance noted that Diller's flamboyant look is echoed inLady Gaga's concert attire and thatEddie Murphy also punctuated jokes with a loud laugh, in a style reminiscent of Diller's persona.[11]
Diller was an outspoken proponent ofplastic surgery at a time when cosmetic procedures were secretive. Her public admission to having several facelifts, nose jobs and other procedures added promotional and comedic value to her act.[29] She told Bob Hope in 1971 that she had had a facelift because "I got sick and tired of having the dog drag me out to the yard and bury me."[71] The American Academy of Cosmetic Surgery gave her an award for bringing plastic surgery "out of the closet."[4]
In 2003, after hearing of the donation ofArchie Bunker's chair to theSmithsonian Institution, Diller opened her doors to theNational Museum of American History. She offered them some of her most iconic costume pieces, as well as her gag file, a steel cabinet with 48 file drawers with more than 50,000 jokes she had written on index cards during her career. In 2011, the Albert H. Small Documents Gallery at theNational Museum of American History displayed Diller's file and some of the objects that became synonymous with her comedic persona—an unkempt wig, wrist-length gloves, cloth-covered ankle boots, and a bejeweled cigarette holder.[12]
^The censuses from 1920 and 1930 state that the Driver family lived on West Mark Street, in Lima
^"Roseanne Barr: 'Phyllis Diller was a genius'". Hollywood.com. August 22, 2012. Retrieved August 25, 2012. Barr admits Diller never believed in God and she often joked about heaven.
^Baker, James F (1968).Gypsy Rose Lee. Episode #721: Chita Rivera and Paul Lynde. American International Television, Inc. RetrievedAugust 16, 2023 – via The New York Public Library.Videotaped for KGO-TV, Channel 7, San Francisco, Calif., Feb. 20, 1968
^Orenstein, Bernie, (interview). Posted 2016."The Beautiful Phyllis Diller Show," Archive of American Television, emmytvlegends.org. Retrieved on March 1, 2017.
^abOliar, Dotan; Sprigman, Christopher (2008)."There's No Free Laugh (Anymore): The Emergence of Intellectual Property Norms and the Transformation of Stand-Up Comedy".Virginia Law Review.94 (8): 1848.JSTOR25470605. RetrievedSeptember 16, 2020.There is also evidence in the [Diller archive...at the Smithsonian in Washington, D.C.] file suggesting that Diller appropriated from other sources [apart from self-creation or using her writing team], including newspaper comic strips and comedy books. For example, a number of Diller's jokes about her dysfunctional marriage to her fictional husband 'Fang' appear to have been inspired by a comic strip, 'The Lockhorns,' that Diller followed obsessively over the course of nearly a decade. The Diller joke files contain hundreds of 'Lockhorns' panels cut out of newspapers and mounted on index cards.
