Before she was an actress, Monique worked as a customer service representative at the phone companyMCI inHunt Valley, Maryland.[7] She got her start in comedy at the downtown Baltimore Comedy Factory Outlet when her brother Steve dared her to perform at anopen mic night.
During a 2008Essence magazine interview, Mo'Nique revealed that she was sexually abused by her brother Gerald from ages 7 to 11; he went on to sexually abuse another girl and was sentenced to 12 years in prison. After her twin boys were born in 2005, Mo'Nique cut off all contact with Gerald. On April 19, 2010, he admitted onOprah to sexually abusing her over several years. He also was abused by family members and struggled with substance abuse.[8]
Mo'Nique portrayed Nicole "Nikki" Parker on the UPN television seriesThe Parkers from 1999 to 2004. She was featured on many leading stand-up venues such asShowtime at the Apollo,Russell Simmons'Def Comedy Jam, andThank God You're Here. Mo'Nique tackles race issues in her stand up routines, for instance at the Montreal Just For Laugh Festival in 2000: "White and black people, we're just mad at each other, we don't know why we're mad at each other. We're not each other's enemy. We're not the enemy. It's the Chinese people we need to watch out for".[9]
In 2005, Mo'Nique played a significant role in Tony Scott's thrillerDomino, co-starringKeira Knightley andMickey Rourke. In 2006, Mo'Nique was cast as the lead inPhat Girlz, a comedy about an aspiring fashion designer struggling to find love and acceptance. The film was met with lukewarm response from critics and fans. It did earn back its $3 million production cost in its first weekend of release.[10]
Mo'Nique's first play wasEve Ensler'sObie Award-winning production ofThe Vagina Monologues in March 2002. Mo'Nique,Ella Joyce (Roc);Wendy Raquel Robinson (The Steve Harvey Show andThe Game) andVanessa Bell Calloway (What's Love Got to Do with It), were the first all black celebrity cast to performThe Vagina Monologues. Produced by YYP & Associates, the show was directed by playwright and director Yetta Young as well as co-produced by Kellie R. Griffin, Lisa D. Washington and Anita Cal. Mo'Nique is the author of the best-selling bookSkinny Women Are Evil: Notes of a Big Girl in a Small-Minded World. She also released a 2006 cookbook calledSkinny Cooks Can't Be Trusted. Mo'nique was part of the Washington, D.C., WHUR radio show with George Wilborn. In 2006, she occasionally filled in for afternoon personalityMichael Baisden when his contract withABC Radio was in the process of getting renewed.[11]
She was also named hostess ofShowtime at the Apollo. She was the hostess and executive producer ofMo'Nique's Fat Chance, a beauty pageant for plus-sized women, on theOxygen cable network. She hosted the first season ofFlavor of Love Girls: Charm School onVH1 where she crownedSaaphyri as the winner.Mo'Nique's 2007 documentaryI Coulda Been Your Cellmate! focuses on incarcerated women. In interviews with individual women, she touches on the common factors that bring many women into the penal system. The documentary was related to her filming a comedy special at the Ohio Reformatory for Women, also known as The Farm. In 2007, she had a guest-starring role on the hit television seriesUgly Betty as L'Amanda, Mode's weekend security guard.[12] She starred inThe Mo'Nique Show, her own late-night talk show. Taped in Atlanta, the show premiered October 5, 2009, on BET.[13]
In 2008, Mo'Nique stated onOprah Winfrey Show thatMartin Lawrence gave her invaluable advice about show business: "He pulled me to the side and he said, 'Listen, don't ever let them tell you what you can't have.' Since that day, I've made some of the best deals I've ever made in my career because it keeps ringing in my head...It will stay with me forever."[14] In 2008,Radio One signed her to her own radio show:Mo'Nique in the Afternoon (orThe Mo'Nique Show), which premiered on several Radio One-ownedUrban Adult Contemporary-formatted R&B/soul radio stations in July 2008. It mainly aired on these stations that had a local lineup because some Radio One stations did not carry it due to their contracts with Michael Baisden. The show lasted until March 18, 2009, when Mo'Nique decided to leave to "further her career in television, film, and comedy."[15]
Mo'Nique giving a speech in 2010
In 2009, Mo'Nique appeared in the filmPrecious, directed byLee Daniels, portraying an inner-city teenager's abusive mother. She won theSundance Film Festival Special Jury Prize for her performance in the film. TheAfrican-American Film Critics Association (AAFCA) awarded Mo'Nique with the Best Supporting Actress Award in December 2009. Mo'Nique received the AAFCA's first ever unanimous vote in an acting category.[16]
In November 2009, Mo'Nique said, "I own the rights toHattie McDaniel's life story, and I can't wait to tell that story because that woman was absolutely amazing. She had to stand up to the adversity of black and white [society] at a time when we really weren't accepted. Mr. Lee Daniels is going to direct it, of course, and I'm going to be Miss Hattie McDaniel. I really hope I can do that woman justice."[21]
In 2014, Mo'Nique starred inPatrik-Ian Polk's drama filmBlackbird as Claire Rousseau. She next starred asMa Rainey in thebiographical filmBessie in 2015, for which she received critical acclaim, earning her aPrimetime Emmy Award nomination. Her last roles (in film or television) were in 2016. In May 2017, she said Lee Daniels, Oprah Winfrey, and Tyler Perry had been blackballing her ever since she did not promotePrecious in 2009.[22][23]
Mo'Nique was married to sportswriter Calvin Watkins who she met in broadcasting school and had son Shalon Watkins, Jr. in 1990. She would later describe this marriage as abusive.[25][26] From 1997 to 2001, she was married to barber Mark Jackson. In October 2005, Mo'Nique gave birth to twin sons Jonathan and David Hicks two months before their due date.[27] In 2006, she married their father, Sidney Hicks. In aNew York Times profile, she mentions that she and Hicks have an open marriage:
We have an agreement that we'll always be honest, and if sex happens with another person, that's not a deal breaker for us, that's not something where we'll have to say, 'Oh God, we've got to go to divorce court because you cheated on me.' Because we don't cheat.[28]
She repeated this view later onThe Oprah Winfrey Show when she said that, in her prior marriages, she was constantly searching for "that extra oomph".[29] Mo'Nique explained,
When I said I had an open marriage, people automatically jumped to sex. They automatically went there. But I've been best friends with my husband since we were 14 years old. When we say open, we're very honest. There are no secrets. Oftentimes you have people that are married, but they're strangers, and we refuse to be those people.[30]
She concluded, "I've had to sneak and I've had to lie, and I don't want to do that anymore. But my husband is so awesome and so fine and so—oh, girl...No other man can compare".[30]
In her Netflix specialMy Name is Mo'Nique, released in April 2023, Mo'Nique disclosed that she experienced sexual attraction to women, stating that she was "not all the way" a lesbian, but that "when you're born with that, there's absolutely nothing you can do about it. Nothing. And please understand that I tried."[31][32][33][34]
In 2009, Mo'Nique starred in the indie dramaPrecious directed byLee Daniels. For the role, she was paid $50,000. The film started to receive critical attention and awards buzz for her performance. The film's executive producersTyler Perry andOprah Winfrey, as well as the film's production companyLionsgate, asked her to travel to promote the film at theCannes Film Festival, which she declined to do, saying her deal was with the film's director, Daniels, and that she had finished her contractual obligations.[35]
Upon winning theAcademy Award for Best Supporting Actress, Mo'Nique stated, "I'd like to thank the Academy for showing that it can be about the performance and not the politics".[36]
Mo'Nique has since claimed Perry called her to apologize for how she was treated. In 2020, Mo'Nique performed a standup segment attacking Perry, Oprah and others involved in the feud. She has stated how devastated she was by Oprah's communication and described her as "malicious".[37][38][39]
In 2018, Mo'Nique accusedNetflix of racial and gender bias against her after she was paid $500,000 for her comedy special to air on the streaming service. She compared herself toDave Chappelle,Chris Rock,Kevin Hart, andAmy Schumer, who each received multimillion-dollar deals. In her statement, she stated:
When we asked Netflix to explain the difference—why the money was so different—they said, 'Well, we believe that's what Mo'Nique will bring.' We said, 'Well, what about my resume?' They said, 'We don't go off of resumes.' Then we asked them, 'What was it about Amy Schumer?' and they said, 'Well, she sold outMadison Square Garden twice and she had a big movie over the summer.' Is that not Amy Schumer's resume? And then Netflix said, 'By the way, we believe Mo'Nique is a legend, too.' Why shouldn't I get what the legends are getting?
In her statement, she also urged people to support her in her boycott of Netflix. She went on numerous talk shows, includingThe View, in which she continued to fight against Netflix. In 2019, she sued Netflix, with her complaint reading in part, "In short, as this lawsuit shows, Netflix's treatment of Mo'Nique began with a discriminatory low-ball offer and ended with a blacklisting act of retaliation." In the suit, she listed fellow comedians who were paid millions for their specials, including Chappelle, Rock,Jerry Seinfeld,Eddie Murphy,Ellen DeGeneres, andRicky Gervais.[40]
By June 2022, Netflix had settled the lawsuit with Mo'Nique, and on July 19, 2022, announced that she was set to do a new special for them.[41][42]
For her performance inThe Parkers, Mo'nique has received fourNAACP Image Awards in the category of Most Outstanding Actress in a Comedy Series. She has also been nominated for several roles, including, aPrimetime Emmy Award for her work in the television film,Bessie, and a number ofBET Awards for her contribution to comedy productions.