Colloquialism for a person obsessed with control
Control freak is acolloquialism for a person who feels a psychological need to constantly be in charge of things and people around them. A control freak can becomedistressed when they feel things are going out of control.[1] The feel of the need to control is often attributed to the underlying fear of losing control over their lives.[2]
This expression was introduced around the 1960s and it is not a clinical one.[3]
Control freaks tend to have a psychological need to be in charge of things and people – even circumstances that cannot be controlled. The need for control, in extreme cases, stems from deeper psychological issues such asobsessive–compulsive personality disorder (OCPD),anxiety disorders, orpersonality disorders.[1]
Control freaks are often insecure andperfectionists.[4] Additionally, they may evenmanipulate or pressure others to change to avoid having to change themselves. They may have had an overbearing mother or father.[5] Furthermore, control freaks sometimes have similarities tocodependents, in the sense that the latter's fear of abandonment leads to attempts to control those they are dependent on.[6]
- Steve Jobs — Steve Jobs was a perfectionist who favored the closed system of control over all aspects of a product from start to finish — what he termed the integrated over the fragmented approach.[7] AsSteve Wozniak, his long-term collaborator and occasional critic, put it: "Apple gets you into theirplaypen and keeps you there".[8]
- Queen Victoria — A series of three documentary programs onBBC2 in the UK in January 2013 calledQueen Victoria's Children argued that Queen Victoria was a pathological control freak by the way she controlled the welfare of all her children.[9]
- ^ab"How to Deal with a Control Freak".Health Essentials. Cleveland Clinic. 5 May 2020. Retrieved5 May 2020.
- ^5 Signs That You Are Dealing With a Control Freak
- ^Kristin Glaser, inThe Radical Therapist (Penguin 1974) p. 246
- ^Michelle N. Lafrance,Women and Depression (2009) p. 89
- ^Robin Skynner/John Cleese,Families and how to survive them (London 1994) p. 208
- ^David Stafford &Liz Hodgkinson,Codependency (London 1995) p. 131
- ^Walter Isaacson,Steve Jobs (2011) p. 564 and p. 513
- ^Quoted in Isaacson, p. 497
- ^Queen Victoria's Children BBC2 January 2013