Flay was born on December 10, 1964, in New York City,[5] to Bill and Dorothy Barbara (McGuirk) Flay.[11][12] He was raised on theUpper East Side ofManhattan.[13] He is a fourth generationIrish American and was raisedCatholic, attending denominational schools.[14]
At age 8, Flay asked for anEasy-Bake Oven forChristmas. His father thought that aG.I. Joe would be more appropriate. Despite his father's objections, he received them both.[15][16]
Flay dropped out of high school at age 17.[17] He said that his first jobs in the restaurant industry were at a pizza parlor andBaskin-Robbins.[18] He then took a position making salads atJoe Allen Restaurant in Manhattan'sTheater District, where his father was a partner.[6][19] The owner, Joe Allen, was impressed by Flay's natural ability and agreed to pay his partner's son's tuition at theFrench Culinary Institute.[20]
Flay received a degree in culinary arts and was a member of the first graduating class of theFrench Culinary Institute in 1984. After culinary school, he started working as asous-chef, quickly learning the culinary arts. At the Brighton Grill on Third Avenue, Flay was handed the executive chef position a week after the executive chef was fired. Flay quit when he realized he was not ready to run a kitchen. He took a position as a chef working for restaurateurJonathan Waxman at Bud and Jams. Waxman introduced Flay to southwestern, which came to define his culinary career.[6]
After working for a short time on the floor at theAmerican Stock Exchange, Flay returned to the kitchen as the executive chef of Miracle Grill in theEast Village, where he worked from 1988 to 1990.[10] He caught the attention of Jerome Kretchmer, who was looking for a southwestern-style chef. Impressed by Flay's food, Kretchmer offered him the position of executive chef of Mesa Grill, which opened on January 15, 1991. Shortly after, he became a partner. In November 1993, Flay partnered with Laurence Kretchmer to open Bolo Bar & Restaurant[20][21] in theFlatiron District, just a few blocks away from Mesa Grill.
Entrance sign to Mesa Grill in Caesars Palace, Las VegasMesa Grill at Las Vegas
Flay opened a second Mesa Grill atCaesars Palace in Las Vegas in 2004, and in 2005 he opened Bar Americain, an AmericanBrasserie, inMidtown Manhattan.[22] He continued to expand his restaurants by opening Bobby Flay Steak in theBorgata Hotel Casino & Spa inAtlantic City, New Jersey. This was followed by a third Mesa Grill inthe Bahamas, located in The Cove atAtlantis Paradise Island, which opened on March 28, 2007.[10] The Las Vegas Mesa Grill earned Flay his onlyMichelin Star in 2008, which was taken away in the 2009 edition. Michelin did not publish a 2010 or 2011 Las Vegas edition, so the star could not be re-earned.
Bolo Bar & Restaurant closed its doors on December 31, 2007, to make way for acondominium.[23]
Aside from his restaurants and television shows, Flay has been a master instructor and visiting chef at the French Culinary Institute.[24][25] Although he is not currently teaching classes, he occasionally visits when his schedule permits.[26]
Flay established the Bobby Flay Scholarship in 2003. This full scholarship to the French Culinary Institute is awarded annually to a student in the Long Island City Culinary Arts Program. Flay personally helps select the awardee each year.[6][27]
Flay opened his first Bobby's Burger Palace (BBP) at theSmith Haven Mall inLake Grove, Long Island, on July 15, 2008.[28] At its peak, BBP had nineteen locations in eleven states and the District of Columbia.
The original Mesa Grill in New York closed in September 2013 following a proposed rent increase by the landlord.[29]
In May 2021, Mesa Grill in Caesars Palace was converted to an Italian restaurant called Amalfi by Bobby Flay. He also updated the menu and changed the name of his Las Vegas Bobby's Burger Palace to Bobby's Burgers. He now has four locations of Bobby's Burgers in Caesars Palace Las Vegas, Paris Hotel Las Vegas, Harrah's Las Vegas, and Yankee Stadium in New York City.[30]
As of September 2019, Flay has an estimatednet worth of $30 million.[31]
OnThrowdown! with Bobby Flay, Flay challenges cooks known for a specific dish or type of cooking to a cook-off of their signature dish. Flay was anIron Chef on the showIron Chef America. In 2000, when the originalIron Chef show traveled to New York for a special battle, he challenged Iron ChefMasaharu Morimoto to battle rock crab. After the hour battle ended, Flay stood on top of his cutting board and raised his arms in what one journalist wrote was "premature victory". As Morimoto felt that real chefs consider cutting boards and knives sacred, and being offended by Flay's flamboyant gesture, he criticized his professionalism, saying that Flay was "not a chef". Flay went on to lose the battle.[39] Flay challenged Morimoto to a rematch in Morimoto's native Japan. This time, Flay won.[39]
On a specialepisode ofIron Chef America originally airing on November 12, 2006, Flay andGiada De Laurentiis faced off against, and were defeated by, Batali andRachael Ray. This was the highest rated show ever broadcast on Food Network.[40] Flay andMichael Symon defeated the team of Iron ChefsCat Cora and Masaharu Morimoto in a specialepisode titled "Thanksgiving Showdown", which originally aired on November 16, 2008.[41] In an episode recorded in July 2010 and broadcast in March 2011, Montreal cooking show hostChuck Hughes beat Flay to become the youngest Canadian champ.[42]
Beat Bobby Flay pits select chefs against Flay to see if they can create dishes that are better than his.
His specials include:
Bobby's Vegas Gamble – Covers the opening of Mesa Grill Las Vegas.[43]
Restaurant Revamp – Flay tries to help a family restaurant.[44]
Chefography: Bobby Flay – Biography of Flay's life and career.[45]
Tasting Ireland – Flay takes a food tour of Ireland, his ancestral homeland.[46]
Food Network Awards – The Food Network recognizes people and places that have impacted the food world.[47]
In October 2021,Variety reported that Flay would leave Food Network after a 27-year run, after he and the network failed to reach an agreement on a new contract.[49]People reported that Flay had sought $100 million as part of the proposal.[50] In November 2021, it was reported that Flay had signed a new three-year deal with Food Network.[51]
In 1996, Flay hostedThe Main Ingredient with Bobby Flay onLifetime Television. Twice a month, he hosts a cooking segment onCBS'sThe Early Show.[21] He hosted thereality television showAmerica's Next Great Restaurant onNBC from March to May 2011 in which in the end he picks one restaurant team with whom to open a restaurant.[52] The show was canceled after the first season due to low ratings.
Flay has been featured in several episodes of Great Chefs television including:
Flay had a cameo appearance in theDisney Channel original movieEddie's Million Dollar Cook-Off as the host of the cook-off. He appeared on the televisiongame showPyramid with fellow Iron ChefMario Batali as the guest celebrities in an episode originally airing on November 18, 2003. He appeared as a judge on the CBS television show "Wickedly Perfect" during the 2004–05 season. He also appeared in theLaw & Order: Special Victims Unit episode "Design", which originally aired on September 22, 2005. He had a small role as himself in the 2006 filmEast Broadway, in which his then-wife,Stephanie March, had a larger role.
In 2010, Flay was impersonated in theSouth Park cartoon episode "Crème Fraiche". In 2011, Flay had recurring appearances in the final season ofEntourage as the boyfriend of Ari Gold's wife. In 2012, Flay appeared onPortlandia in a director's cut of the episodeBrunch Village in which he showed director Jonathan Krisel how to make marionberry pancakes.[54] Flay guest stars as himself on season two of the TV seriesYounger, which initially aired in 2016.[55]
In 2009, Flay hosted a weekly call-in show onSirius XM Satellite Radio.[59] He offered advice to men on "everything from sports to current issues", although food was the focus.[60]
In April 2021, Flay, with Elly Truesdell and Katja Lang, launched Made by Nacho, a premium cat food company named for hisMaine Coon, Nacho Flay.[61] The brand sells wet cat food, dry kibble, and freeze-dried protein treats.[62] Made by Nacho sells cat food from their website and inPetSmart in addition to offering a subscription service.[63] Flay has also founded the Made By Nacho Charitable Fund as part ofThe New York Community Trust.[64]
Bobby Flay's Barbecue Addiction (Clarkson Potter, April 23, 2013) –ISBN978-0-3074-6139-1
Bobby Flay Fit: 200 Recipes for a Healthy Lifestyle (Co-authors: Stephanie Banyas and Sally Jackson; Publisher – Clarkson Potter, December 5, 2017) -ISBN978-0-3853-4593-4
Bobby at Home: Fearless Flavors from My Kitchen (Clarkson Potter, September 24, 2019) –ISBN978-0-3853-4591-0
Flay marriedDebra Ponzek, also a chef, on May 11, 1991.[65] Flay and Ponzek divorced in 1993, and Flay married his second wife, Kate Connelly, in 1995.[5] They have a daughter.[5] Flay and Connelly separated in 1998[66] and later divorced. Flay married actressStephanie March on February 20, 2005.[19] March and Flay divorced in July 2015.[67] Flay datedHeléne Yorke from February 2016 to early 2019.[68][69] In November 2021, Flay went public with girlfriend Christina Perez after about a year of dating. The couple broke up in 2024.[70] As of March 2025, Flay is in a relationship with fellow chefBrooke Williamson.[71]
Flay is a self-proclaimed 'cat person' and has lived with cats most of his life.[63] He has had threeMaine Coons: Nacho, an orange tabby Maine Coon; Stella, a brown tabby Maine Coon five years younger than Nacho;[72][73] and Canelo.[74] In October 2023, Flay announced that Nacho had died.[75]
^Hall, Trish (May 8, 1991)."Sharing a Life Of Chefs' Hours And Pancakes".The New York Times. RetrievedJuly 26, 2007.Bobby Flay and Debra Ponzek, two well-known chefs in the New York food world, are getting married on Saturday [May 11, 1991].
