Loken was born October 8, 1979,[2][3] inGhent,Columbia County,New York,[4] to parents from a Norwegian community inWisconsin.[5][6] She is the daughter of Rande (née Porath), a model, and Merlin "Chris" Loken, a writer, apple farmer,[3] and former Broadway and Hollywood actor.[5] Loken has a sister named Tanya.[7] Loken is ofNorwegian andGerman descent from her great-grandparents,[citation needed] and her grandparents also spokeNorwegian.[5] Regarding her ethnic heritage, Loken indicated in a 2003 interview that she calls herself both Norwegian and American, saying, "We follow many of the Norwegian traditions...the holidays, especially at Christmas. This is something I hope to keep going when I have a family of my own."[4] In a 2006 interview she also mentioned German heritage, stating, "I do have Norwegian blood, with a little bit of German in there."[8] She grew up in a town inUpstate New York, and took her first trip to Norway at age 12.[4]
Loken's mother encouraged her to become a model.[9] She participated at the 1994Elite Model Look, placing third runner-up.[10] Loken started her acting career in 1994 as the third actress to play Danielle 'Dani' Andropoulos on an episode ofAs the World Turns.[11] She later appeared in several television shows and films, including regular appearances on the television showsPhilly,Unhappily Ever After andBoy Meets World.[episode needed]
In 1998, Loken starred inMortal Kombat: Conquest as Taja. She played thegynoidT-X (Terminatrix) in the 2003 movieTerminator 3: Rise of the Machines.[12] In 2004, she appeared in a German television movie,Die Nibelungen (also known as "Dark Kingdom: The Dragon King" or "Sword of Xanten"), which aired as a two-part miniseries and set a ratings record. She starred as the leading character in the 2006 film adaptation of the video gameBloodRayne, and appeared in directorUwe Boll's film adaptation of the video gameDungeon Siege, calledIn the Name of the King.
She appeared in 10 episodes of the fourth season ofThe L Word, which debuted in January 2007. Additionally, she starred as the title character in theSci-Fi Channel's seriesPainkiller Jane which aired from April to September 2007. In December 2011, Loken appeared in the fifth-season finale of theUSA Network TV seriesBurn Notice as CIA agent Rebecca Lang, and would reprise that role in three sixth-season episodes during mid-2012.[episode needed]
Loken isbisexual. She stated in an interview withChicago Tribune newspaper: "Kissing a girl is much, much nicer than kissing a man. I think it is more intimate, to be honest. I suppose it is more sensitive, I think females bond better than men, although I do find men attractive. Sometimes girls just want to go for it with a female friend. And usually, you'll get a good reaction from men who are looking at you. It wasn't the first time I kissed a girl when I kissedPink, you know. Oh God, no. But I won't give too much away."[13] She also stated in an interview withCurve magazine: "I have dated and have had sex with men and women and have to say that the relationships I have had with certain women have been much more fulfilling, sexually and emotionally, than of those with certain men. I connect with anaura, with energy. And if the person with whom I connect happens to be a female, that's just the way it is. That's what makes my wheels turn."[14] And toAfterEllen: "I'm confident with who I am and being openly bisexual, and I think it's up to my generation to be open about that and to let people know that it's OK to be confident with who they are so that prejudice and judgment can become less through the years and for future generations."[15]
On January 17, 2008, Loken announced on her website she was engaged to herPainkiller Jane co-starNoah Danby; the couple exchanged marriage vows at her family's farm on May 10, 2008.[16] In an interview published on November 16, 2009, she announced she had separated from Danby and was dating a woman.[17]
Loken gave birth to a son, Thor Loken Bates, on May 31, 2016.[18] The father of the child is her boyfriend,JP Morgan Chase managing director Jonathan Bates.[18]